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Friday, July 25, 2014

Mark Twain’s Top 9 Tips for Living

“Let us live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.”

“When your friends begin to flatter you on how young you look, it’s a sure sign you’re getting old.”

You may know Mark Twain for some of his very popular books like Adventures of Huckleberry Finn and The Adventures of Tom Sawyer. He was a writer and also a humorist, satirist and lecturer.

Twain is known for his many – and often funny – quotes. Here are a few of my favourite tips from him.

1. Approve of yourself.

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

If you don’t approve of yourself, of your behaviour and actions then you’ll probably walk around most of the day with a sort of uncomfortable feeling. If you, on the other hand, approve of yourself then you tend to become relaxed and gain inner freedom to do more of what you really want.

This can, in a related way, be a big obstacle in personal growth. You may have all the right tools to grow in some way but you feel an inner resistance. You can’t get there.

What you may be bumping into there are success barriers. You are putting up barriers in your own mind of what you may or may not deserve. Or barriers that tell you what you are capable of. They might tell you that you aren’t really that kind of person that could this thing that you’re attempting.

Or if you make some headway in the direction you want to go you may start to sabotage for yourself. To keep yourself in a place that is familiar for you.

So you need give yourself approval and allow yourself to be who you want to be. Not look for the approval from others. But from yourself. To dissolve that inner barrier or let go of that self-sabotaging tendency. This is no easy task and it can take time.

2. Your limitations may just be in your mind.

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”

So many limitations are mostly in our minds. We may for instance think that people will disapprove because we are too tall, too old or balding. But these things mostly matter when you think they matter. Because you become self-conscious and worried about what people may think.

And people pick up on that and may react in negative ways. Or you may interpret anything they do as a negative reaction because you are so fearful of a bad reaction and so focused inward on yourself.

If you, on the other hand, don’t mind then people tend to not mind that much either. And if you don’t mind then you won’t let that part of yourself become a self-imposed roadblock in your life.

It is, for instance, seldom too late to do what you want to do.

3. Lighten up and have some fun.

“Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing.”

“Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand.”

Humor and laughter are amazing tools. They can turn any serious situation into something to laugh about. They can lighten the mood just about anywhere.

And a lighter mood is often a better space to work in because now your body and mind isn’t filled to the brim with negative emotions. When you are more light-hearted and relaxed then the solution to a situation is often easier to both come up with and implement. Have a look at Lighten Up! for more on this topic.

Friday, July 18, 2014

Indian Traditions ‘Vs’ Scientific Reasons

1) Joining both palms together to greet.
In Hindu culture, people greet each other by joining their palms – termed as “Namaskar.” The general reason behind this tradition is that greeting by joining both the palms means respect. However, scientifically speaking, joining both hands ensures joining the tips of all the fingers together; which are denoted to the pressure points of eyes, ears, and mind. Pressing them together is said to activate the pressure points which helps us remember that person for a long time. And, no germs since we don’t make any physical contact!

2) Why do Indian women wear toe rings?
Wearing toe rings is not just the significance of married women but there is science behind it. Normally toe rings are worn on the second toe. A particular nerve from the second toe connects the uterus and passes to heart. Wearing toe ring on this finger strengthens the uterus. It will keep it healthy by regulating the blood flow to it and menstrual cycle will be regularized. As Silver is a good conductor, it also absorbs polar energies from the earth and passes it to the body.

3) Applying Tilak on the forehead.

On the forehead, between the two eyebrows, is a spot that is considered as a major nerve point in human body since ancient times. The Tilak is believed to prevent the loss of “energy”, the red ‘kumkum’ between the eyebrows is said to retain energy in the human body and control the various levels of concentration. While applying kumkum the points on the mid-brow region and Adnya-chakra are automatically pressed. This also facilitates the blood supply to the face muscles.

4) Why do temples have bells?
People who are visiting the temple should and will Ring the bell before entering the inner sanctum (Garbhagudi or Garbha Gruha or womb-chamber) where the main idol is placed. According to Agama Sastra, the bell is used to give sound for keeping evil forces away and the ring of the bell is pleasant to God. However, the scientific reason behind bells is that their ring clears our mind and helps us stay sharp and keep our full concentration on devotional purpose.

5) Why do temples have bells?
These bells are made in such a way that when they produce a sound it creates a unity in the Left and Right parts of our brains. The moment we ring the bell, it produces a sharp and enduring sound which lasts for minimum of 7 seconds in echo mode. The duration of echo is good enough to activate all the seven healing centres in our body. This results in emptying our brain from all negative thoughts.

6) Why do we have Navratras?
Our living style has drastically changed if we compare it to the society hundreds & thousands of years ago. The traditions which we follow in present are not establishments of today but of the past. Ever thought, why do we have Navratras twice a year unlike other festivals like Deepawali or Holi? Well, both these months are the months of changing seasons and the eating habits of both the seasons are quite different from each other.

Saturday, June 21, 2014

3 Things to Learn About the Opposite Sex

We are alike in so many ways, but when it comes to relationships and love, there's no denying it: 

Men and women can seem to be complete opposites. What might surprise you however is just how many and how real these differences truly are. And yet, you can't ignore these different ways of looking at love if you want to build a successful relationship.

3 Things Men Need to Understand About Women in Relationships 
  1. Conflict lingers:  My long-term study on marriage found that women are much more sensitive than men about conflict and problems that arise in relationships. When a woman has a disagreement, it lingers in her mind for two-to-three days. She replays it over and over. She wants to go over the disagreement the next day. By contrast, when men have a conflict with their partner, once it's been discussed, it's resolved. The fight doesn't linger in their minds. They have already moved on to thinking about something else.
  2. Don't fix things: Men need to understand that when women have a problem and they come to share that problem with you, they don't need the problem solved. Men want to repair or fix issues when women raise them. Women just want you to listen, empathize, and say you understand.
  3. Women connect through talk: Women connect and feel close to others by talking and sharing personal information. Talking time is therapeutic to women. If you want a woman to feel close to you, she needs to open up to you—and you to her. Most men feel connected by doing activities with others (poker, sports), but women feel close by simply talking.
3 Things Women Need to Understand About Men in Relationships

Friday, June 20, 2014

Cicero's philosophy

Rome's (of the Roman Empire) Cicero's (106 - 43 BC) philosophy is still valid even today, for any country of our globe:
Cicero's (106 - 43 BC)
  1. The poor: work and work,
  2. The rich:  exploit the poor,
  3. The soldier: protects both,
  4. The taxpayer: pays for all three,
  5. The wanderer: rests for all four,
  6. The drunk: drinks for all five,
  7. The banker: robs all six,
  8. The lawyer: misleads all seven,
  9. The doctor: kills all eight,
  10. The undertaker: buries all nine,
  11. The Politician: lives happily on the account of all ten.
Courtesy: Mail Fwd by Harsha Joshi

Saturday, June 7, 2014

Ayurveda Support for Depression

Sometimes anxiety and depression seems just to be encompassing our lives, much like un-wanted friends.  And taking in of medications (unless it is proclaimed mandatory by your doctor), could do more harm than good. Best way out would be to look for some solution that is safe, doable and enduring.

These are some simple instructions that I tend to offer to my patients and all those who value natural healing modalities !

  • You need to wake up early in the morning, actually with the first morning sun rays! The juvenile ultraviolet rays emitted during dawn tend to work as mind stimulators and mood dilators!
  • Yoga poses like Shavasana and Yoga Nidra and Deep breathing techniques called Pranayama are surely going to help you greatly, especially the Anulom – Vilom and Bhramari Pranayamas.
  • Take to Vegan diet which is more Saatvik and therefore enhances positivism of the mind. More of seasonal fruits, vegetables, sprouts. Naturopathy suggests take alkaline diet more than 80%.
  • Lavender oil as aromatic drops may be used in bath and burnt in your room for stress – relieving aroma.
  •  Massage of soles of the feet with some warming oil like Sesame seed oil will benefit. Also, you need to use some cooling oil for massage of your scalp daily. Elaadi tailam or coconut oil are good.
  • Meditation is going to be of highest support!
  • Ayurveda herb Ashagandha is recommended. Also, Sarswatarishta and Brahma Rasayana are some Ayurveda medication that would be of assistance.
  •  Also, keeping occupied mentally during the day in any creative activity that makes you feel happy and positive is mandatory.
Credits: curejoy.com

Friday, June 6, 2014

42 Lesser Known Amazing Human Body Facts

  1. Children grow faster in springtime
  2. It is not possible to tickle yourself.
  3. All babies are color blind at birth, they see only black and white.
  4. Each person sheds 22 kilograms of skin in his or her lifetime.
  5. Average life span of a taste bud is only 10 days.
  6. Your teeth start growing 6 months before you are born.
  7. Largest muscle in your body is one on which you are sitting on.
  8. Children have more taste buds than adults.
  9. Eyes stay the same size throughout life but nose and ears never stop growing.
  10. There are approximately 96,000 km of blood vessels in the human body.
  11. Heart circulates blood in your body about 1000 times each day.
  12. When you blush, your stomach lining also reddens.
  13. When you sleep, you grow by about 8mm (0.3in). The next day you shrink back to your former height. The reason is that your cartilage discs are squeezed like sponges by the force of gravity when you stand or sit..
  14. A mans testicles manufacture 10 million new sperm cells each day – enough that he could repopulate the entire planet in only 6 months!
  15. Scientists say the higher your I.Q. the more you dream.

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

The Reality of This Moment

As you sit here reading this, pause and expand your awareness beyond your computer/phone … what is the reality of this moment?

You’re reading, and there are a bunch of other tasks you want to do on your computer, yes … but there’s also your body. How does that feel? There’s the area around you, perhaps some people around you. There’s nature nearby.

Take a pause to become aware of the actual reality of this particular moment.

As we go through our day, we’re often stressed because of all the things we have to do, the things we’re not doing. We worry about how things will go in the future, and procrastinate because we’re afraid of an overwhelming task. We feel we’re not good enough, we compare ourselves to others, we fall short of some ideal. We replay a conversation that already happened.

That’s all in our heads, but it’s all fantasy. The reality of this specific moment is that you’re OK. Better than OK, actually: there are so many good things to be grateful for, in this moment.

And there are the particulars of the moment that only exist, right now. The combination of sounds and colors and shapes and smells around you will never exist in this particular combination ever again. The way your body feels, the thought that pops into your head in the next moment, will never exist again, ever.

Saturday, May 17, 2014

Secret to Turn Friendship Into Romance

Previously, I wrote here on research about when you should play "hard to get" in relationships. That research also found an interesting distinction between behaviors that created "liking" and those that increased "desire" (Dai, Dong, & Jia, 2014). In other words, being easy, congenial, and friendly made a person more "likeable," but not more attractive or desirable as a romantic partner. In contrast, being aloof and challenging made a person more attractive and desirable, but did not make them likeable.

This finding left me wondering whether this distinction between liking/friendship and desiring/attraction could be behind other romantic issues as well. After all, many individuals find it difficult to avoid or get out of the "friend zone" and build a romantic connection with a friend (see here and here). Similarly, "nice" men and women often feel like they finish last in relationships, being picked over for "bad" boys and girls who appear more desirable (see here). Even those in long-term relationships who fall into friendly, companionate love sometimes need help re-sparking attraction and passion.

Being denied an object of desire made people want it more, but like it less when they got it. In contrast, getting the desired objective accomplished made them like it more, but less motivated to work to obtain more of it. 

In other words, satisfying your partner's needs or wants increases how much they like you and how friendly they feel toward you—but it can also reduce their desire to chase you for more. In contrast, not satisfying a partner's needs may keep them passionately pursuing you and trying to please you, but will eventually lead to dislike, dissatisfaction, and animosity.

How might this look in practice? Consider three scenarios for the partners Chris and Pat:

Every time Pat even hints at a want or need, Chris is quick to fill it. In fact, Chris often fills those needs before Pat truly builds up a strong desire for them, just to be nice and thoughtful—without any concern for getting something in return. Over time, Pat will come to like Chris a lot—as a companion and friend. But Pat may feel little desire for Chris and perhaps not much motivation to please in return. This is the so-called "friend zone" in which desire has fizzled out—all liking, no wanting.

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